Comments on: Taking on the Biological Clock http://lauracarroll.com/2010/01/taking-on-the-biological-clock/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=taking-on-the-biological-clock Talk the Childfree Life & Beyond with Author Laura Carroll Mon, 06 Feb 2012 08:18:31 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Scott http://lauracarroll.com/2010/01/taking-on-the-biological-clock/comment-page-1/#comment-1947 Scott Thu, 05 May 2011 21:40:05 +0000 http://lauracarroll.com/?p=802#comment-1947 Feeling a "biological urge" for something does not necessarily mean that it is the right thing to do. It could be good natural instinct that's good to follow, or it could be a biological urge that it's best to ignore. If we humans followed every impulse because it felt totally natural, we would live in pretty chaotic societies. Or, at least we would need to change our judgment about a lot of social norms. If all biological urges must be followed, we would then say that Tiger Woods was just communing with the forces of the universe, accepting his place in the biosphere with many of his fellow biological beings. Feeling a “biological urge” for something does not necessarily mean that it is the right thing to do. It could be good natural instinct that’s good to follow, or it could be a biological urge that it’s best to ignore.

If we humans followed every impulse because it felt totally natural, we would live in pretty chaotic societies. Or, at least we would need to change our judgment about a lot of social norms. If all biological urges must be followed, we would then say that Tiger Woods was just communing with the forces of the universe, accepting his place in the biosphere with many of his fellow biological beings.

]]> By: Laura http://lauracarroll.com/2010/01/taking-on-the-biological-clock/comment-page-1/#comment-1944 Laura Thu, 05 May 2011 15:09:17 +0000 http://lauracarroll.com/?p=802#comment-1944 Thanks for writing~I guess I don't get why he would give you a letter that speaks to having children when in one's 60s...maybe you are feeling sad because you can't share your love in a way you have in the past...so maybe instead think of something Else you two can create together if not a child. There are so many ways to deeply and lovlingly co-create! ~L Thanks for writing~I guess I don’t get why he would give you a letter that speaks to having children when in one’s 60s…maybe you are feeling sad because you can’t share your love in a way you have in the past…so maybe instead think of something Else you two can create together if not a child. There are so many ways to deeply and lovlingly co-create! ~L

]]> By: Jeanette Webster http://lauracarroll.com/2010/01/taking-on-the-biological-clock/comment-page-1/#comment-1942 Jeanette Webster Thu, 05 May 2011 13:47:38 +0000 http://lauracarroll.com/?p=802#comment-1942 I am 64 years old. I do not want any more children to raise, believe me!!! I have raised two wonderful boys. I will be remarrying soon to a wonderful man near my own age. What I do not understand is, why on earth, am I saddened beyond my comprehension, by the fact that I am unable to create a child with my husband to be. Is it a natural urge tied in not with the biological clock, so much, as being so totally, head-over-heels in love with someone, that you feel the need to give of yourself in this way. Help me out here...my husband-to-be sent me a letter that was a romantic premade message that spoke of having a baby together and the joys to be faced in the child's growth and accomplishments. I loved everything in the letter, because he truly meant all of it, except that part. When I came to that one sentiment, I became incredibly saddened that I could no longer bear a child. I mentioned it to him how it made me sad, and he apologized profusely, saying it was just a part of the letter. It made him very unhappy, as he felt he had hurt me in this. Now I am just wondering why I would be so profoundly sad. I am 64 years old. I do not want any more children to raise, believe me!!! I have raised two wonderful boys. I will be remarrying soon to a wonderful man near my own age.
What I do not understand is, why on earth, am I saddened beyond my comprehension, by the fact that I am unable to create a child with my husband to be. Is it a natural urge tied in not with the biological clock, so much, as being so totally, head-over-heels in love with someone, that you feel the need to give of yourself in this way. Help me out here…my husband-to-be sent me a letter that was a romantic premade message that spoke of having a baby together and the joys to be faced in the child’s growth and accomplishments. I loved everything in the letter, because he truly meant all of it, except that part. When I came to that one sentiment, I became incredibly saddened that I could no longer bear a child. I mentioned it to him how it made me sad, and he apologized profusely, saying it was just a part of the letter. It made him very unhappy, as he felt he had hurt me in this. Now I am just wondering why I would be so profoundly sad.

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