Comments on: Hearing from Childfree Men

By: Laura

Laura — Mon, 09 Jan 2012 16:00:35 +0000

Robert: I don’t think you are wrong at all…kids being brought into the world right now will see some great challenges if those of us who are already here don’t take some serious responsibility for population stabilization and ensuring future generations won’t face dangerous resource depletion…which some experts say have already reached that point. Even if a person has the urge to have a kid, it is time to put adoption first, again, to take care of who is already here, and simultaneously not adding to to a growing population. But these realities fight with long held tenets of pronatalism. It is powerful value systems that needs to change before behavior will change, and those who see this, need to keep speaking out. So thank you for doing so!

By: Robert

Robert — Mon, 09 Jan 2012 05:36:58 +0000

I enjoyed reading the comments of guys that think the same way as me. I want to add other reasons for not having kids: 1)I would feel very guilty to bring them to this world we are living right now: and that is:
1)a world with no real jobs or opportunities (so they struggled 25 years to be unable to have a decent life)
2)a world full of violence,drugs and crime ,elsewhere!
3)a world too expensive to live
4)a world that soon will run out of water! and other natural resources. Not to mention the increase of polution and other big natural disasters
5)90% of divorces worldwide (not 50%),and very complicated to live with anyone today…Dont see any change in this department either for a kid growing up
Its a situation in which kids will start saying to their parents: why did you bring me to this world?
I dont see how could anyone live happy “in here”!
Am I wrong?

By: Laura

Laura — Sat, 07 Jan 2012 16:57:03 +0000

Thanks for writing! I do know a lot about Jung’s personality profiles, and have talked to many childfree INTPs…however, I have also talked to many E’s, S’, F’s and J’s! Like occupations, lifestyles etc. we have many different personalities. It would very interesting though to do a study of thousands of people with no children by choice to see if there are any correlations…..maybe someday!

By: David

David — Sat, 07 Jan 2012 10:20:05 +0000

Late, later, latest i think I found this through google aswell but i already found your youtube channel. Im 25 year old and i came to fully realize that i dont want to have children. Ever. I think the feeling was there a long time before i came to that realization though. When i grew up i was a loner and would rather entertain myself then play with other kids. I did have friends but they where few. Even back then i didnt like to be around groups of people. I hated the very first day i went to school. When my dad came pick me up i was in the exact same spot as where he left me. It didnt really came as a surprise to my parents when i told them im going to have a vasectomy. They are supportive (‘if that is your choice its your choice and knowing you it might be the best choice’). In middle school i really wanted to have gf’s but when i thought about relationships my thoughts didnt go further then: 1. meet girl 2. have nice life together. After that everything became foggy. It wasnt until i was in a relationship for 2 years that the topic kids came up. That was 2 years ago and i told my gf that i dont want them. She did so we broke up and i ever felt so relieved that i made this decision for myself! Im not particulary a career person but i value my peace and quiet time (its not optional i need it to ‘recharge’). I never get bored and im always busy thinking. Even my Jung personality-profile was INTP if that means something to you haha..

By: Bashir

Bashir — Mon, 14 Feb 2011 16:38:19 +0000

Thanks Laura, You will be the first to hear when I find that child free Nigerian woman.

Peace.