And I probably shouldnt have used the word “partner”. I should have written girlfriend/wife instead. HA.

And yes, point 4 is a serious reason why I dont want children. I see this with a lot of parents, not just my mother. Parents are CONSISTENTLY stressed, tired, angry, worn out or whatever adjective you could think of to describe an unpleasant disposition.

6) I would rather dedicate my life into changing the world in some capacity with my skills and talents, rather than giving so much time and energy to raising a child.

My reasons are:

1) I value my independence. I love being able to do what I want, when I want it.
2) I rather build, and find more joy in building, mature adult relationships.
3) I dont have 18 years to devote to anything but myself or my partner.
4) Seeing what several children did to my mother made me question if I wanted kids. She was always stressed and angry. Even though Im the opposite, I saw what children add to a family which is more heartache and stress than good.
5) As deegee, I too worked for a summer with kids and I hated most of it. The noise, the lack of respect etc turned me off of children forever.

The second summer, at a different day camp, I was a regular counselor 3 days a week and a computer specialist counselor two days a week, on alternating days (Tues, Thurs). On my regular days, I was with a group of 6-year-old boys. This group was worse than the prior year’s boys because of one particularly awful boy, one who always acted up and even bit another counselor! On my specialist days, I would have all the age groups except for my regular group visit my computer area (they were too young). It was quite a relief to be rid of those kids for the day. The computer specialist work was more tiring because I was running the show but not as annoying. It did look good on my resume, however.

Then again, it was an even bigger relief after I dropped off the last kid (I was one of the minibus drivers, as these camp owners did not hire many older people to save money) before getting home. Those bus rides were often noisy and I had to pull over to yell at the kids to get them to quiet down.

It was during the second summer that I knew I never wanted to be around kids 24/7 because of how much I appreciated being away from them either during the day or after I got back home.

The following summer, I got a job which kept me away from all kids and paid a lot more, more than both both day camps jobs combined.