Comments on: Parenthood versus Childfree Part V

By: Laura

Laura — Wed, 02 Jun 2010 15:08:24 +0000

Thanks to you, Heather, for bringing my attention to the article! Deserved a five part discussion. I would love to have an article published in Australia or be on local media. Maybe during my next visit-I have been to your country and love it! I am working on the follow to Families of Two, and will definitely shoot for publicity “down under..” ~L

By: Mrs Flowerpot

Mrs Flowerpot — Wed, 02 Jun 2010 01:38:30 +0000

Thank you for dissecting this article and bringing to our attention some misleading facts. The newspaper it appeared in has one of the widest reaches in my state of NSW, Australia and articles are often discussed in our general weekly conversation. Not good then that some of the content was incorrect. It’s not easy living childfree in a society like mine where the government’s motto is “one for mum, one for dad, and one for your country” and, combined with the generous financial handout of over $5,000 for each new child, we are experiencing a baby boom. Makes you wonder if parents are having children for the right reasons, especially since I know a few who have some new smart looking flat screen TV’s. Laura, I would love to see an article based on your research on what it’s really like to be childfree in one of our popular magazines, newspapers or current affair TV shows.

By: Laura

Laura — Fri, 28 May 2010 15:57:45 +0000

Derek~Your reason for not having them is one I don’t hear as often as som eother reasons but it sure makes sense. I see couples who start having kids as late as in their late 40s and wonder if they thought about how old they would be when their kid graduates from high school, college, if/when they become grandparents, etc. I am curious–if you did not want kids if you didn’t have them by the time you were 25, why would you consider adopting later? ~L

By: Derek Lee

Derek Lee — Fri, 28 May 2010 05:41:36 +0000

I’m a 28 year old male, personal trainer. and I don’t want kids. Its not that I don’t like them. They’re great.
At a young age I decided that If I didn’t have kids by 25. I wasn’t having them. If I had them, then I’d want to be young so I can be around them for a long time. I put a great deal of thought into this before making my decision.
So I had a vasectomy. Many people look down on me for this. Sure I’d consider adoption down the line. Its not an easy thing to mention to women though. Its an instant deal breaker. And its tough for a guy that has alot to offer in a relationship.

By: Laura

Laura — Thu, 27 May 2010 19:04:49 +0000

It is a shame that so often people choose the path everyone else is taking rather than figuring out their own. Making social acceptance more important than what you really want out of life so often makes for unhappy parents–but they won’t tell you that–except anonymously! Re your take on “winning” — so well said! ~L