Comments on: Reasons and Real Reasons for becoming parents http://lauracarroll.com/2010/06/reasons-and-real-reasons-for-becoming-parents/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=reasons-and-real-reasons-for-becoming-parents Talk the Childfree Life & Beyond with Author Laura Carroll Mon, 06 Feb 2012 08:18:31 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Laura http://lauracarroll.com/2010/06/reasons-and-real-reasons-for-becoming-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-259 Laura Fri, 18 Jun 2010 20:45:48 +0000 http://lauracarroll.com/?p=2189#comment-259 It's interesting that so many people think that the bio urge" what we instinctually have, but research does not support it--likely more a matter of social conditioning in a pronatalist world. Many childfree would say the "urge" is to have sex, not to procreate ~L It’s interesting that so many people think that the bio urge” what we instinctually have, but research does not support it–likely more a matter of social conditioning in a pronatalist world. Many childfree would say the “urge” is to have sex, not to procreate ~L

]]> By: Mrs Flowerpot http://lauracarroll.com/2010/06/reasons-and-real-reasons-for-becoming-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-256 Mrs Flowerpot Fri, 18 Jun 2010 02:37:39 +0000 http://lauracarroll.com/?p=2189#comment-256 What a great list. I wish I had this in my younger fertile years to combat all the comments I received from others about choosing to be childfree. Many of my single friends were desperate to have children and did so in their late 30's/early 40's. They chose (what I thought) were the first semi-decent guy they could find, and got pregnant very quickly. Their intensity scared me. One girl quoted "every period is a lost child" and would cry every month. Another went so far as to compile a list of guys from an internet dating site during the week, and have unprotected sex with them on the weekends in the hope she would fall pregnant. Now many are having marital problems. I would say the "I can’t help it; it’s a biological urge", was what most were thinking. What a great list. I wish I had this in my younger fertile years to combat all the comments I received from others about choosing to be childfree.

Many of my single friends were desperate to have children and did so in their late 30′s/early 40′s. They chose (what I thought) were the first semi-decent guy they could find, and got pregnant very quickly. Their intensity scared me. One girl quoted “every period is a lost child” and would cry every month. Another went so far as to compile a list of guys from an internet dating site during the week, and have unprotected sex with them on the weekends in the hope she would fall pregnant. Now many are having marital problems. I would say the “I can’t help it; it’s a biological urge”, was what most were thinking.

]]> By: Laura http://lauracarroll.com/2010/06/reasons-and-real-reasons-for-becoming-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-245 Laura Tue, 15 Jun 2010 15:35:39 +0000 http://lauracarroll.com/?p=2189#comment-245 I agree--at the very least it would help would-be parents examine their deeper motives for having children before they say yes to a lifestyle they may regret..but can't admit it! ~L I agree–at the very least it would help would-be parents examine their deeper motives for having children before they say yes to a lifestyle they may regret..but can’t admit it! ~L

]]> By: Christine H http://lauracarroll.com/2010/06/reasons-and-real-reasons-for-becoming-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-244 Christine H Tue, 15 Jun 2010 14:58:59 +0000 http://lauracarroll.com/?p=2189#comment-244 If only more people read this BEFORE becoming parents. If only more people read this BEFORE becoming parents.

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