Lisa Hymas of grist.org did a post on how Sex and the City is the greenest movie of the year because the lead character Carrie, even though she does not realize it, exemplifies a greenish lifestyle — she has no car, does not travel much, and most importantly she is childfree.
The same goes for Samantha, so it makes two of the four in the group leading lives without motherhood (character Miranda and Charlotte are moms), which is more than what real stats would reflect.
While I don’t think it’s the greenest movie of the year (yo-the characters are quite the consumers), it got me thinking about the real women. How “green “are they in their real lives from a reproductive standpoint? Let’s start with Sarah Jessica Parker who plays Carrie. She’s married to actor Matthew Broderick, they have one son, and twin daughters that were delivered by a surrogate mother. Kim Cattrall, who plays Samantha is childfree, and in an interview with Oprah,shared why she made this choice and insightful views on the meaning of motherhood…
In the interview Kim said, “..I try not to listen to the shoulds or coulds, and try to get beyond expectations, peer pressure, or trying to please—and just listen. I believe all the answers are ultimately within us. When I answered those questions regarding having children, I realized that so much of the pressure I was feeling was from outside sources, and I knew I wasn’t ready to take that step into motherhood.
Since then I’ve found other ways to fulfill my maternal instincts—when a young actress comes to me for advice about her career, or when I give a talk at a school, babysit my friends’ kids, or work with children’s charities or organizations. And even though I’m now married, my decision still stands.
My newest projects sometimes feel like my children. When my husband, Mark, and I wrote our book, the time, energy, and love we put into it felt very much like parenting. And when we finally dropped the book off at the publisher, it was as if we were taking our child to the first day of nursery school—we were so proud and so nervous.
Being a biological mother just isn’t part of my experience this time around. However, I am a mother who continues to give birth to ideas and ways of experiencing life that challenge the norm.”
Since that interview, while she is no longer married, she remains childfree. Cynthia Nixon, who plays Miranda, has two children from previous marriage. Today she and partner Christine Marinoni have no children. Kristin Davis, who plays Charlotte, is single, has no children, at least for now. In an interview with Foxnews, she said that she’d love to have children. “I’d also love to adopt a child — I think about it a lot,” she said, adding that she admires Angelina Jolie for adopting kids…”I’d still like to find a man and have a baby with him if that’s possible…I haven’t given up.”
So if I am up to date on these stars (please if you have different “latest “let me know!), that is one childfree (Cattrall), one temporarily has no children (Davis), and two moms (Nixon and Parker), with Parker being the least green, if you adopt the position that not having children is the greenest thing you can do. The real sex and the city women generally reflect what we commonly see — most are moms, some don’t have kids by circumstance and others by choice, in that order. At least none are baby machines like many Hollywood women.
I wish we’d hear more from childfree celebrities that experience motherhood like Cattrall–as giving birth through the creative process and many experiences in life, including mentoring and involvement with kids. Or how about childfree characters in movies, television, etc. who give examples of expanded views of motherhood and fatherhood–what do you see out there in this regard?